Hey! I'm Hope, and today I wanted to touch on a topic that is really important to me: touching or asking to touch a Person of Colour (POC)’s hair.
First and foremost, you should never touch another person, including their hair, without asking. It is a super basic concept that is pretty shockingly ignored at times (e.g., POC’s hair or pregnant women’s bellies) - but I think we can all agree it is SO uncomfortable to be touched without consent.
Now onto asking to touch a POC’s hair and I would like to start with a little exercise. If you are not a POC, I want you to think about the last time a POC asked to touch your hair… I’d be willing to bet this has happened slim to never.
When I was growing up I was a part of predominantly white communities and often at school, at church, and even in grocery stores, people would ask to touch my hair. Now, this really sucked, because when someone reaches to touch my hair, it signals that I am different. It may not be intended or mean-spirited but it definitely draws unwanted attention and singles me out as different.
By asking to touch a POC’s hair you feed into the stereotype that the only “normal” types of hair are straight, fine, less textured hair and that by contrast, our hair is unusual and different and so completely outside the norm that it has become a novelty! It can conjure up feelings of otherness and really make one feel like they are on display - so just really not a great feeling overall.
Now that I am an adult, I handle these situations with education, tact, and boundaries. However, thinking back to that little girl that I was, and thinking about all the other little children out there with textured hair today, I just wish there was more education surrounding the topic.
The Big Takeaway: If someone wants you to touch their hair, they will offer and you won’t have to ask.
So now you know why you should not touch or ask to touch a POC’s hair - but is there a way to express interest without causing bad feels? Of course!
If you are interested in learning about someone’s hair type or style, simply ask them to tell you about it! Open up a positive dialogue: say you think their hair is gorgeous or their style is so cool. Ask questions about where the style originates, how long it takes to style like that, how long the style will last, and so on. Real genuine interest is always welcome!
Breakouts. Those stubborn things we want to go as fast as they appear. When dealing with these pesky guys, there are specific dos & don’ts we need to follow to make sure they heal properly!
I hope these 5 steps can help you manage future breakouts! If acne is something you struggle with, check out my Acne Bootcamp. Plus if you have any other breakout or skin questions please shoot me a DM, leave a comment, or book a free consultation.
Acne is one of those topics that is surrounded by SO MUCH misinformation!! There is so much conflicting advice, product endorsements, active ingredients, DIYs, Dos and Don'ts, and drastic solutions floating around that sometimes it feels IMPOSSIBLE to know what is fact and what is fiction. So today I am going to break down some of the acne myths that truly drive me up the wall!!!
MYTH: Acne-prone skin requires a bunch of active ingredients to combat acne.
This is one of the top myths I want to break down. Depending on your skin, some people should be using no active ingredients at all, while some people can use a variety (depending on the ingredients -some ingredients should not be used in combination with each other).
MYTH: Popping pimples is fine - or even beneficial.
This is not true! In general, leave your zits alone! A zit is not going to last forever - your body will always naturally heal or expel it (like in a hot shower) in time. Most people are unaware that when you try to pop a pimple and it doesn't pop, what's actually happening isthe inflammation may have popped under the skin, causing the acne to spread further. My recommendation is always to leave your skin be and see your esthetician if you want extractions! However, another option is to invest in some zit stickers, which will absorb secretions and prevent unnecessary touching of the spot. They can also help heal the inflammation faster!
MYTH: Acne only happens in teens and should clear up by the time you are an adult.
False! Acne can be caused by a variety of factors including hormones, environmental stressors, medications, stress, skin type, and lifestyle. Some people never have acne as a teen but struggle with it in adulthood. Hormones are complex systems that can fluctuate throughout a person's lifetime for a wide range of reasons.
MYTH: Acne means that someone doesn’t take care of their skin properly.
This is absolutely not true! Anyone can get acne for any of the reasons mentioned above. It is of course important to keep skin healthy with a skincare routine, but even someone with a dedicated regimen can still deal with breakouts or persistent acne.
MYTH: Products with the same ingredients have the same effectiveness.
Not all products are created equally. Even though a product might claim to include a certain ingredient, particularly active ingredients, this does not mean that it will give the same results! One example could be Vitamin C products from a drugstore brand vs. a professional-grade brand like Dermalogica. The difference is the quality of the Vitamin C molecule - some molecules can penetrate deeper than others, while some just stay on the skin's surface.
There are definitely a ton of myths floating around about how to treat your skin, prevent acne, and treat acne - these are just some of the ones I hear the most often! If I missed one that you’ve heard and you aren’t sure if it’s true, I would be happy to help you break it down! Send me a DM on Instagram, post in the comments below, or book a free skin consultation and we can chat in person. I can answer your questions about acne and give you tips on how to treat your skin’s unique concerns.
Hey there! Hope here from Salon Society! Today I am so excited to talk about a new membership program we have developed at Salon Society that is near and dear to my heart: The SASO Acne Bootcamp.
Acne and breakouts have always been a sensitive topic for me. At the age of 12 I started dealing with cystic, hormonal acne. Cystic acne is painful, inflamed acne that forms deep under the skin. It is incredibly painful, visually noticeable, often causes scarring, post inflammatory hyperpigmentation, and a whole host of other issues. I tried all the trending products from Clean & Clear, the infamous St. Ives Apricot scrub, and all the home remedies - but nothing helped and lots made it worse. I visited a dermatologist multiple times but unfortunately I didn’t receive the treatment or advice I needed to heal my skin. Instead I was given high-percentage products that sensitized my already sensitive skin and added to the pain and struggle. These experiences left me feeling hopeless, frustrated, and feeling completely left in the dark. For a long time I was insecure and bullied for the appearance of my skin. Acne is something I struggled with then and something I continue to deal with today.
I needed someone to be supportive, understanding, and knowledgeable in a judgment-free atmosphere - and that’s what I hope to bring to others with this new program!
Introducing the SASO Acne Bootcamp: a fully customizable treatment plan to help reach skin goals at-home and in the treatment room. The Acne Bootcamp is characterized by 4 elements:
The program can be purchased on our online boutique or in-store! Still have questions? Send me a DM at @hopeatsalonsociety on Instagram + Facebook or book in to see me for a Complimentary Skincare Consultation & let’s chat!
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